I'm BAAAAAACCCCKKKKKK!!!!! The internet had been down for a couple days and it was driving me crazy!!!!! Not that I'm on it all the time, I just want the option to be on it all the time. lol
Anyway, on to the rant that I promised you.........
I've been really soul searching about writing about this. By writing this, I may make a few people mad and I might even lose a few readers, but this has been on my mind for almost a year now. So, I figured I should write it. It's about kids.
Right from the start I want to say that I'm not an expert on kids. I don't have any of my own. I do have two step kids who I have watched grow up. But, that's all of my experience when it comes to parenting. That, and remembering what it was like when I was growing up.
The reason that I felt like I had to write about this now is because of how much it has been very prominent lately. Since it's the holiday season, I've been around a LOT of people and their children. Things have changed since I was growing up. This new generation of children growing up confuses me. Well, maybe I shouldn't say the children confuse me, I should say the parents do. Let me tell you what I'm talking about.
These past few weekends, I've had get togethers with family members. At these gatherings the kids were VERY disruptive. When I say disruptive I mean they were screaming like crazy people. I'm not talking "squeals of joys", I'm talking SCREAMING just because the other child was screaming louder than they were. The adults couldn't even talk to each other. These kids were jumping down flights of stairs just for the fun of it. The older child of the house's owner tried telling the parents of these children that they were going to get hurt. The parent just said," If there is no blood, no broken bones, or no teeth knocked out, I don't want to hear about it." At this time there were sounds coming from the other parts of the house that sounded like the house was caving in. This was one of the times that I had to step outside of the house so that I could calm my nerves.
Another thing I noticed at these parties was when it was time for all of us to eat, it was suggested that the children get their food first. Here is where I was raised different. To me, the elderly always went first and the children got their food last. There was always enough food for the children because the elderly always made sure there were. When the kids got their food first, they ate their food and came back for seconds before the rest of the family had gotten theirs. I saw absolutely no respect, at these get togethers, for the older generation. I'm not talking about my generation, I'm talking about my parents' generation.
Something else that I've noticed is (okay here is another place I'll probably say "good-bye" to readers) the grandparents are taking care of the grand kids. The actual parents are doing things like taking date nights, going out with friends, going on vacations, etc...without their children. I thought having kids meant that the children went with you. You already HAD a date night. That's why you have kids to begin with. lol. Now I'm not say NEVER take a date night, but does it have to be EVERY week? What about once a month? I just think that it's putting a burden on the grandparents. Don't get me wrong, I understand that the grandparents want to see the grand kids, but I just feel that they are being used too much. They already raised their kids, they shouldn't have to raise their grand kids also. I know that not ALL parents are taking advantage of the grandparents, and I know that not ALL grandparents mind raising their grand children. Now, I'm saying this because I really know of a few examples where the parents are REALLY taking advantage of the grand parents. Not just a date night once a week, I'm talking going out EVERY NIGHT. To me, that's just not right. I also know of a parent who lives in a totally different state clear across the country, by herself, and her daughter(who is 13yrs old) lives with her grandmother. That way the mother of this child can "have the life that she has always wanted." I can keep giving examples like this people!!!!!!
Now, on to kids living with their parents. Right now I can give you quite a few examples of older children living off of there parents. When I say "living off of" I mean they are living with their parents and not contributing to anything within the house. These are "kids" anywhere from the ages of 23 to 49. Eating their parent's food, using their electric and water, using their space, and not offering to help pay for it, or even help with the household chores. The reason might be "not having any money", but these examples that I'm talking about, the children bring home as much or even MORE than the parents that they are living off of, or the children just wont go out and GET a job. I just don't understand.......
I could go on and on about this subject for hours but I probably have already made a few people mad so I'll quit while I'm ahead.(or not ahead.)
So until next time,(if you come back.)
Small Farm Girl, once again, I'm not a parent. Just a bystander.